From 4th form down right to lower 6th form (before I enter college) the number of people was like, up to 40? just from the people I know. Imagine a terrace house, corner lot of double storey loaded with more than 100 humans. It's like TUNA can.
Anyway, the parents liked it a lot because it helps in keeping the fengshui in check for the business and the family's well being.
However, when I hit upper 6, and onwards, I invite like hell lesser people to the house.
Like 75% less. That makes, 12 people only?
Maybe a lil plus minus, but the crowd was definitely much quieter and more toned down.
I'm not even sure if I should bother making invitations anymore, when I'm actually making the run.
Anyhow, it didn't spike me till I was asked on where to hold the 21st birthday celebration.
In the family, its like a MUST to have like the 21st birthday thingy, and invitation to all relatives is mandatory, at least the ones in Klang Valley.
After attending heck loads of 21st birthday of cousins before me, I'm down to either home catering or probably Korean buffet. Japanese is like, heck every single time it has been Jap, and Western definitely will kill the tastebuds of the Gen X. Believe it or not, most of the attendees are actually aunts and uncles rather than the cousins.
Anyhow, then Mum was like:
M: Hey don't you attend any of your friends' 21st birthdays? Sis was SOO busy when she was 21, had to attend steamboats over steamboats for it!
T: Uhm, now that you mentioned it, yea.
M: Why ar?
T: Well, maybe my circle of friends don't really think 21st as like the BIG thing ya know? It's not like they are super rich or something..
M: Maybe because they are all overseas hor? Right?
*thank you for saving me from you*
T: Yea! Alright, so go for your massage and facial already!
I spent 30 seconds to think over the conversation again.
Heck I've changed a lot.
I was not the person I knew before, probably the family still thinks I'm the same but I beg to differ.
I barely stayed in an institution for more than a year, how on earth do I get to see people grow till 21?
I don't exactly have a life prior to this conversation; university, workout, home, the cycle repeats until I stopped; work, workout, home, and the cycle repeats itself again.
I have had NO university mates who are of same age as I do, therefore no 21 years old-s.
I am 20 minutes away from the fabulous peeps in UPM, and I still have to survive the wrath of drivers' duties, so I need to spare myself.
And most importantly is, the people who I deem(and hopefully they do too) worth all my time and dedication for their 21st have the birthdays either in August or September.
So it all boiled up over a 2 minutes conversation in the car with mum.
It took me 15 seconds of contemplation to realized I've became bitter.
Well, I guess the Chinese proverb of "Humans change, Moon turns round" explains the whole situation well.
I wonder what is going to happen when I stepped into work-hood.